Age

They, whoever that is, say age is just a number right?

So the age I choose to have children shouldn't matter right? Wrong. I guess. Apparently when your a women talking about babies age is a really big deal. It is much more than a number. It is something that determines whether people think you should have a baby or not.

This is the main reason my baby plan is a secret. Its a way to avoid other people bringing me down. Whenever you tell someone you want to wait until you are 32 to start trying to have a child they look at you like you have four heads then they start rattling off all of these kill-your-buzz type of "facts." You know what I'm talking about. "Women's fertility drops drastically after 30 years of age so you probably won't be able to get pregnant if you wait that long. All of your kids will probably have things like down syndrome. Your kids will probably be artistic. Women only have a limited number of eggs and when there gone there gone and if you wait too long only the bad ones will be left." Oh Thanks. I didn't know all of that stuff I will definitely go home and start trying to make a baby. NOT. The other people just give you a "better" age like 28.

I know everyone means well and just wants to help, but that isn't really the way to help. It is hard to get into the whole plan with everyone. But since this is my secret blog where I plan on over-sharing like it's going out of style I will get into it here. I am 25. I do not want kids now. I was a nanny. I know how hard it is to take care of kids and try to stay on top of the house cleaning at the same time. My friends have kids. I borrow them. Yes, you read that right. I babysit and play with them when I visit my friends. It is plenty kids for right now. I like to sleep in, go to the casino and bar every once in a while, drink occasionally, eat junk food, watch vulgar TV and movies, wear a bikini, stay in bed all day if I feel like it, etc. I'm not ready to give all of that up and have to be responsible for another human being. I'm not even doing that good of a job taking care of myself.

So since I don't want kids now, but I think I want them in the future, why not plan for it? I know that nothing really goes according to plan, but I also remember that if you fail to plan you plan to fail. So I'm planning. I was planning on starting to trying when I'm 32 and have a baby when I'm 33, but lately I've been thinking about trying when 30 since it might take over a year to conceive. Plus that way if I try to get pregnant for two years with no luck I can start the adoption process when I'm 32.

On the other hand, what if I don't even want kids when I'm 30? Five years will fly by! What if I'm still my lazy self who doesn't want to be responsible for anyone else? More reasons not to rush into having kids. I don't want to resent them because I wasn't ready for them or I really didn't want my lifestyle to change. I don't want to make my kids feel miserable like my mom made me feel every time she reminded me I was an accident and came much too early in her life.

So back to the age issue... When I Google the issue I don't really find anything that makes me think I won't be able to have a baby in my early 30s. It seems like over 35 is when things start getting harder. That's another reason I feel like I should start trying when I am 30 instead of 32 since I want two kids with two years between them.

This post got so long and ramble-y so I will cut it off here.

Do you have anything to add about age?